Ivette Gonzalez Davila: Portrait of a Pathological Narcissist?



In an entry posted yesterday, The True Crime Weblog was the first publication to name Ivette Gonzalez Davila as a suspect in the murders of Army medics Randi and Tim Miller:

"Fort Lewis Honor Guard Soldier Allegedly Kills Couple, Kidnaps Baby *UPDATED*"

Davila titled the brief video at the beginning of this post "Video of first days" -- presumably the beginning of her training for the Fort Lewis Army Honor Guard.

The 22-year-old Army Specialist allegedly killed the Millers on Saturday. Jealousy allegedly drove Davila to the Miller home last Saturday night. Court papers filed in Pierce County, WA state that Davila believed Randi Miller was involved with her ex-boyfriend.

Davila, who apparently knew both Millers well, allegedly shot Randi Miller as she lay in bed. Police say she then opened fire on Tim Miller as he stood in the shower. She went to a Home Depot, where she bought muriatic acid (previous reports said sulfuric acid). Ivette Davila returned to the Miller home and dragged Randi Miller's body to the tub where Tim Miller lay. She doused them with the acid, thinking it would dissolve their bodies.

Ivette (sometimes spelled 'Yvette) Davila took the Millers' baby girl back to the barracks at Fort Lewis. She told another soldier she was babysitting, but she couldn't keep up the ruse for long. Court papers say Davila confessed to a fellow soldier.

She apparently intended to take the Millers' child to an 'orphanage.'

Ivette Gonzalez Davila made a brief court appearance in Washington Tuesday. She has been charged with murder and kidnapping.

Davila knew Randi and Tim Miller well enough to hang out with them. A comment from Randi Miller on Davila's MySpace in 2007 invited Davila to a chili cook-off. Randi made a joke, asking if "Mexicans liked" that sort of thing.

The first True Crime Weblog post about this bizarre double murder quoted comments Ivette Davila left on Tim Miller's MySpace page in 2007. She called Tim a "brokeback mountain story maker upper" and said, "he's my man. my boyfriend. u were just a lil gay phase. cooper WAS curious." She was apparently referring to the man she was dating at the time.

Davila's comments may have been inside jokes, but the reports of Davila's jealousy towards one of the Millers have made some readers of this blog wonder if she was serious. The court papers cited by several media sources reporting this story indicate Ivette Davila believed that Randi Miller was in a relationship with Davila's ex.

On her own personal profile, Randi wrote the following: "the only person in the world who really matters to me is my husband."

A version of Davila's MySpace page cached in early February revealed a strange combination of imagery. Coupled with glittery graphics and photos of the alleged killer -- usually in a tight black dress -- were random images of handguns and pics of friends and relatives. Davila had posted photos of herself and 4 pretty, young friends, calling them "The Main GBBs." One of the friends said on her own page that GBB meant "Gorgeous Badd (sic) Bitches."

Above the photos of the GBBs was a graphic with the legend, "I roll with Pretty Bitches."

Further down the page Davila posted a quote from "Miss Davi" -- one of her nicknames: "I HATE you & then I LOVE you.. Its like I want to throw you off a cliff then rush to the bottom to catch you!"

While we live in a somewhat narcissistic culture in general, pathological narcissism is a personality disorder familiar to anyone who studies true crime stories. Infamous criminals like Scott Peterson and Rabbi Fred Neulander have been cited as possible examples of the pathological narcissist.

Here's some of what the Mayo Clinic says about narcissistic personality disorder:
Narcissistic personality disorder is a mental disorder in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance and a deep need for admiration. They believe that they're superior to others and have little regard for other people's feelings. But behind this mask of ultra-confidence lies a fragile self-esteem, vulnerable to the slightest criticism. [...] In particular, narcissistic personality disorder is characterized by dramatic, emotional behavior, in the same category as histrionic, antisocial and borderline personality disorders.
The following signs of pathological narcissism may be present in millions of people who would never physically harm a fly. Again, from The Mayo Clinic:
  • Believing that you're better than others

  • Fantasizing about power, success and attractiveness

  • Exaggerating your achievements or talents

  • Expecting constant praise and admiration

  • Believing that you're special

  • Failing to recognize other people's emotions and feelings

  • Expecting others to go along with your ideas and plans

  • Taking advantage of others

  • Expressing disdain for those you feel are inferior

  • Being jealous of others

  • Believing that others are jealous of you

  • Trouble keeping healthy relationships

  • Setting unrealistic goals

  • Being easily hurt and rejected

  • Having a fragile self-esteem

  • Appearing as tough-minded or unemotional
Looking at the way Ivette Davila presented herself to others (at least via the Web), this extreme brand of narcissism comes to mind. "Trouble keeping healthy relationships" and "Being jealous of others," in particular.

Any analysis of criminal behavior can be alarming. We can easily see ourselves or someone close to us in the preceding list. But it should be said that you can't use a bullet list to diagnose yourself or others. A solid, reliable conclusion can only be made by a mental health professional.

Additional coverage: "Neighbor says Bakersfield soldier accused in killings a 'regular girl'" from Davila's hometown paper, the Bakersfield Californian.